At the beginning of November I decided to push myself to stop caring what others think of me, to be more myself, and to put myself in situations that force me to disregard self-consciousness. Needless to say, it was a crazy month of personal growth!
Out of all my personal development history, the choice to stop caring has resulted in the biggest and quickest growth.
Here are a few of the big changes that happened as a result of this decision. I did not anticipate for the effects to range across so many areas of my life, but I’m not complaining:
- Being completely comfortable in whatever clothes I have on, where ever.
- Disregarding some idiots drunken insults about my actions / attire in a bar in D.C.
- Second-guessing my initial reactions to first impressions of other people’s appearances, actions, or behavior.
- Instead of reacting, making a conscious decision to laugh off an “angry old woman middle finger”.
- Being completely fine in public with a dirty, pathetic attempt at “No-Shave November.”
- Being able to handle criticism and insults because, honestly, there’s just some people whose opinion does not matter (in response to this Thought)
- Focusing more on poses in yoga with out regard to how it looks.
- Jamming while working out and not worrying about what others think.
- “Ommmm”-ing louder in yoga.
- Saying what I want to say immediately when it comes to mind, without holding it in for mental revision.
- Giving compliments because I want to, not because I want to elicit a certain response.
- Publishing “Thoughts”, tweets, and Facebook updates without fearing repercussions.
- Increasing the rate at which I am narrowing down my “friends list”.
- Stopping to consider why I feel / think a certain way.
- Being able to stop mid thought to re-evaluate my thinking process.
- Being better at discerning between personal thoughts and externally influenced thoughts
- I was able to go out downtown one night to have a great time despite being dressed in a terribly unfashionable outfit
- I have drastically reduced how contained and calm I try to appear in public, i.e. yelling, talking to more people, and being more outgoing
I also realized that this decision has tried to emerge many times before, lying in the subconscious, holding back for the perfect time to break through. I am a firm believer that everything happens at the right time.
I cannot guarantee the same immediate changes I have experienced, but starting (or starting to try) to not care is a huge step, one that will lead to immense growth in many areas of your life.