Sometimes lessons have to be learned the hard way but if possible, learning from others mistakes is the best form of learning.
Second hand experience saves immeasurable time, pain, and energy.
When given the opportunity to talk with someone with more experience, take it. You won’t regret your decision. It will give you insight that will allow for proactive obstacle avoidance, knowledge of common mistakes, and routes not to take.
“Learn how to not get burned by those who have been through the fire.”
Eventually you can pass along lessons that you have learned.
10 Lessons at 10 Years Old
The most influential way I have been able to do this has been with my 9 and 10 year old cousins. 4 days a week we are “dude-ing” (the far superior version of babysitting) which is comprised of climbing trees, playing various sports, talking about guy things, and adventuring. Sam and Charlie are at the age where they soak up everything and therefore I want to influence as best as I can. I try to pass on certain lessons that will benefit them for the long run, things I wish I would have learned at their age.
Every few days I give them a new lesson, making sure to spread them out and give them time to absorb. The great thing about this list is that it’s still applicable throughout life.
Here’s the list:
- Always talk to an attractive girl / cool guy. It could be your next girl friend / new best friend.
- Learn from those who’ve gone before you.
- It doesn’t matter what people say / think about you as long as you know who you are.
- Chase the butterflies.
- It’s not what you drive, it’s what drives you.
- Rules aren’t meant to be broken.. but sometimes you need to anyway.
- Firm handshake and eye contact are crucial.
- The world is yours but you will have to work your a$$ off to get it.
- Failures are the stepping stones to success.
- Be true to the real you.
Who Gives You Lessons?
What lessons can I learn from someone 10/20/30 years older?
What are those crucial lessons / tips / ideas that we can learn from someone who has been through it? Where do I start? How do I meet these people?
One thing that has helped me learn second hand is looking at the top 5 regrets of the dying. It’s a great start to learning from the mistakes of others. From there, keep meeting people and keep learning from them. Most people love talking about themselves and their lives and therefore will be more than happy to share mistakes and lessons with you. Just ask questions and soak them in.
Then pass them on.